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My World in Reverse

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Wow.  It has been a long time since I was on WordPress talking to my girls.  I miss you so much.  As I’m sure that you’ve heard through the grape vine or just through my Twitter page where someone was awesome enough to put all my business, I am going through a very hairy divorce.  For those who don’t know, you may read this with a hand over your mouth and the words, “no!” or “what?” on your lips.  But it’s the truth and there is no point in hiding it anymore.  I’ll still be Ms. Nelson after the divorce, as I am keeping my name, but the rest as they say is the rest.

With all the new changes that have occurred in my life – new house, new car, new employment and new attitude – I had to take a serious pause in my writing.  It’s not because I wanted to, but because I had serious writer’s block.  Talk about a mine screw, trying to write under serious duress is like writing on hot coals.

God has been good, as he always is, however, and my recovery back to a state of actual bliss was a short trip.  I am now feeling much better.  In fact, I am hopeful that the stories that I write for you will have even more depth and maybe more real experiences that we can all lean on and learn from.

It’s going to be hard to get back to RiverHouse as it was.  I had to let my staff go and start a new. So, if you call there will be new voices.  I have some orders that have not gone out and about 5,000 emails that I have not returned.  I plan to get to all of that ASAP.

So, you see my world was in a bit of reverse itself.  I had to learn some hard lessons about the people (person) that I loved and was forced to face that love in one person’s eyes isn’t always the same as in another’s.  The great news is that I didn’t end up in the looney bin or bankruptcy court. I just ended up realizing that I’m so much stronger that I ever knew that I was.  Plus, I had a few awesome angels on my side day and night.

I know that you’re waiting on Dmitry to emerge with a new volume of The Chronicles and The World in Reverse.  I’m getting over my block and taking some time to explore some things that I had long pushed back in the closet.  The real Dmitry even visited to remind me that there is still a lot of joy in lifeJ  Thanks for everything, Mark.

You ladies are wonderful.  You  have been patient, prayerful for me and uplifting. I love you all, and I promise not to disappoint.  We are going to have fun, going to go to the depths with our favorite men and we will conquer.

Talk to you soon,

 

Latrivia S. Nelson

 

100 Copies of The Grunt for Wounded Warriors by Latrivia S. Nelson

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You all know how I love the military.  My husband’s service to the Corps is something that we are very proud of.  So in celebration of Memorial Day this year we are going to give away 100 copies of The Grunt to various Wounded Warriors around the country.  Now, I know that there are vets everywhere and many are not housed at the bases.

I’m reaching out to you to ask that if you know of vets who love to read, please send me their information so that we can get them a copy in the mail or on their e-readers.  I plan to match the paperbacks with PDF copies and purchase copies for people online.

We’re currently looking into Gift Certificates for the Kindle and Nook or ways to charge copies on a company account for readers.  We have done this in the past very successfully and we want this drive to be awesome.

The Grunt is something that both men and women can read and it’s been received very well worldwide.  Let’s use this opportunity to share the book with those who have sacrificed so much.  Please send an email to Latrivia@LatriviaNelson.com with the title “100 Wounded Warriors”.

Thanks again,

Latrivia

Game of Thrones: Season Two

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My husband has accused me since I was young girl wearing pig tails of being pleased far too easily.  In all these years, I haven’t grown out of that.  It’s Sunday and I’m starting to really feel like myself again.  After a long writing session, everything seems to be drained out of me.  This last time was no different.  So, I spent days in the bed just sleeping and eating.  Tonight, I plan to do two things.  (1) Go and see a very close friend of mine and catch up on all that I’ve missed in his life since we’ve been busy, (2) Watch Game of Thrones with Adam.  You would think that I’d be happier about one than the other, but in truth, I’m bubbling over to see the second season of my newest favorite show.  I plan to be home by eight no matter what.  I have so many questions.  What is going to happen to everyone?  I hope that the dragons do battle and that little king gets all that is coming to him. What I really want to know is what is the winter going to bring?  If they have dragons, then they must have other monsters.  I really don’t recall when I’ve enjoyed fantasy writing so much.  I feel like a little kid, all giddy about the television.

I guess the point is that life has some awesome little pleasures that make it worth living.  And that has never been lost on me.  I guess I’m lucky.

Tri-State Defender Does Great Story on Latrivia S. Nelson

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It’s always awesome to be highlighted at home. The Tri-State Defender did an excellent story on me. I just wanted to share it with you.  Thanks so much to the TSD for this.

http://tri-statedefenderonline.com/articlelive/articles/7411/1/Author-helps-power-explosion-of-interracial-romance-novels/Page1.html

 

Author helps power explosion of interracial romance novels
By Tri-State Defender Newsroom | Published  Yesterday | Arts & Leisure | Rating:
Making love a black and white issue
Special to the Tri-State Defender
Native Memphian Latrivia S. Nelson sat down in front of her computer in 2008 and wrote her first novel, “Ivy’s Twisted Vine.”

Latrivia S. Nelson writes interracial romance novels that “women from all walks of life can identify with and enjoy.” (Courtesy photo)

Today, “Ivy’s Twisted Vine” is recognized as the largest interracial romance novel in the black woman/white man (bw/wm) genre to date, with many readers referring to it as the “bible of IR.”
“I write interracial romance novels that women from all walks of life can identify with and enjoy,” said Nelson. “The heroines are strong, beautiful, curvaceous and smart. They know what they want out of life, and they go for it. What man, black or white, wouldn’t want them?”
Sales didn’t soar with her first book, but her dreams did. Since then, Nelson’s following has gone from 500 readers to over 50,000. She has fans in over 38 countries and across the U.S. In 2011, she wrote the number one bestselling novel on Amazon’s Multicultural bestseller’s list, “The Grunt,” from her Lonely Heart Series and stayed on the list for over four months. During that time, she also had a second book on the top twenty list for multicultural romance, “The Ugly Girlfriend” (2011).
Nelson’s love for books surfaced as a child. She wrote stories and regularly recited them to her families. In high school, she once sought her mother’s “true feedback” about one of her books by telling her mother that she’d copied pages from a reference book for a class project.
At The LeMoyne-Owen College, Nelson’s alma mater, she wrote for the “Magician” newspaper. She also served as vice president of the Student Government Association and as president of her sorority, Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc., before she went on to be Ms. LeMoyne-Owen College in 2001 and graduate with honors in 2003. Later, she received her MBA from Strayer University.
With a long history in public relations and development, she has worked for nationally recognized companies such as The Carter Malone Group and Trust Marketing, and for the non-profits ALSAC/ St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital, The Memphis Redbirds and the National Civil Rights Museum. And while she was afforded the opportunity to write, her passion was unfulfilled.
Trace Nelson’s inspiration for interracial romance and it leads to family roots.
“As one half of an interracial marriage, I wanted to dispel certain myths and give women and men in those types of relationships something to read that positively highlighted them,” she said.
Nelson married Adam Nelson, a decorated United States Marine in 2005, and the couple has two children.
Highlighted in hundreds of reviews and interviews, Nelson visits readers in myriad places throughout the nation. Her last stop was at the “Beautiful Trouble Eat and Greet” in Winston-Salem, N.Car., and her next appearance will be at the Romance Slam Jam in Little Rock, Ark., where she will be a guest speaker on the interracial romance genre.
“I surround myself with positive people. New York Times bestselling author, Brenda Jackson, is a dear friend of mine, and I look up to her and what she has done for the romance genre as a whole,” said Nelson. “On the home front, I have mentors like Beverly Robertson and Deidre Malone, who have groomed me for years. These women have also taught me to be vigilant in my desire to be the best and do the best that I can.”
In the last four years, Nelson has written 12 novels and novelettes. Five of those titles have been national bestsellers. From the popular romantic suspense series, “The Medlov Crime Family,” her next book will be out on March 28, 2011, entitled “Saving Anya.”
Nelson has ensured a way to get her work out to the world as well as help other aspiring authors. She founded RiverHouse Publishing in 2010 and has offices in the Clarke Tower in Memphis and on Broad in Manhattan, NYC.
“I wanted to give bold authors a chance to let their voices be heard on their own terms,” Nelson said about her publishing company.
And she’s done just that with five authors signed to RiverHouse Publishing, LLC and five new authors set to be introduced this year.
(For more information on Latrivia S. Nelson, visit http://www.latrivianelson.info or http://www.riverhousepublishingllc.com. You can also reach her at 901-322-6191.)

 

So Close to the Finish Line

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I know the question is, what happened?  Even as I sit here and right this, I’m asking myself the exact same thing.  I went to North Carolina to participate in the Beautiful Trouble Publishing Eat and Greet, which was awesome by the way, and then I came home to complete hysteria.  Deadlines were falling out of the sky like dead birds and the minute that they hit the ground, they infected me with more work.  In between traveling like a complete psycho, hitting the office, and taking care of home, I was getting four hours of sleep at most, but the one thing that I did accomplish was Saving Anya.  I have notes that go a mile long, at least.  I wrote on napkins and paper bags, on books and notepads.  I got great ideas that forced me to change the story at least ten times.  But you know what, somehow all of the hysteria in my life only made me more creative.

On the due date of Saving Anya, I had a choice.  I could drop a book that I would be embarrassed to put my name on or I could wait and give you something that was worth your money.  So that’s what I’m doing.  I’m literally on the cusp of this book being finished and I feel damned good about it.  I can’t tell you how good that feels.

Now, in order to that, I had to fade to black.  I didn’t accept any phone calls or send out any emails.  So, I promise that I’ll answer all of them once I’m done.  I didn’t get on Facebook, Twitter anyone, or even blog.  That was so hard not to do.  But I had to focus .  Every moment that I could, I wrote.  Now I am so close to the finish line.

Being such, I can finally get back to at least blogging with you guys.  There are things that I can’t wait to ask you, and I can’t wait to share like my experience with the best group of gals in the world from BTP.  That will be in a blog entry shortly following this one entitled The League of Extraordinary Gentlewomen. Even though I was under the gun, I got a chance to meet the world’s most amazing librarians, some seriously empowered authors and devoted fans. It was totally worth pulling away, and my mom even went with me.  That was so cool…even though she is more of a free thinker than I first knew.  That’s a whole other blog entry.

So, I’ve been taking care of Adam, who is getting better by the day.  I’m proud to report that he’s looking great these days.  I’m so proud of him, and so proud that he’s pulling through.  With everything that he’s been through, to see him smile and laugh (my brother-in-law and sister-in-law came down for a week to help out and totally made our month), is better than any amount of money.

You know, people always say that they’ll do anything for their spouse, but sometimes we have to prove it.  We have to put everything down and stand in front of the bus with it moving at top speed and say take your best shot because I’m not going anywhere.  Well, that’s what I’ve been doing in his healthcare.  I’ve been standing in front of that bus, and even though the impact hurt, I’m not flat yet, ladies.  I’m still standing.  But the bus…isn’tJ

So you want to know when the book will be out.  You don’t want empty promises.  Well, let me give you a real timeline.  This book will be finished in draft form by this Monday.  Our good friend Karen is going to look over it and give it her proofreading and editing seal of approval and then we send it to the printer for a week.  Basically, we’ll b ready to take e-book orders and pre-orders on March 27th or sooner.  Then it’s on to The World in Reverse.  Hey, no one ever said life was easy.

To everyone who has called and sent emails, I want you to know that I love you, appreciate you and pray for you also in return.  Thanks for being amazing, and having patience.  This has not been an easy time in my life at all, but God has given me strength, and I’m still here.  And as long as I’m here, I’ll be writing for you guys.  So, I may be late, but I’ll be there.

Until next entry, have a great one.

XoXo and all that jazz,

Latrivia

Saving Anya Release Date Changed

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First of all, thanks for the thousands of email and well wishes for the family.  I truly appreciate it during this time.  Of course, Iraq is the gift that keeps on giving for many military families and mine is no different.  However, Adam is doing much better and we hope to resolve his issues in the New Year.  As a wife and mother, I had to re-arrange my priorities, and even though the book was so close to release, I had to pull it as well as The World In Reverse. 

It was my hope to release them during the Christmas Break.  However, now I am at least two weeks off the mark.  The books will be released in late January or early February.  I refuse to give another date just to disappoint my wonderful fans. 

I love you dearly and I hope that you can forgive me for the tardiness of these two very important projects.

This week, I plan to upload the first chapter of Saving Anya to the blog for your reading pleasure, also in interim I will post some new discussions so that we can keep in touch. 

It truly is an honor to have you as fans.  I have 3,456 emails from readers about the new books.  I plan to respond to each and every one, but it will take time.  However, I don’t want you to think at any time that you aren’t appreciated, because you truly are. 

While Saving Anya will be the last book of The Medlov Series, it won’t be the last book about the Medlov clan.  The next installment (Volume 5-7 will be released in Winter 2012) and the new Medlov Legacy series will be released in late 2012, detailing the early adult lives of all of your favorite characters’ children. 

One thing at time, I know.  I’m working on getting these new books to you in e-book, Kindle, Nook and paperback format.  Also, don’t forget that we now use PayLoadz for all of our e-books to ensure that you receive your immediately.  I’ve listened to your suggestions and RiverHouse searched high and low to find a service that will accommodate you.  I hope that PayLoadz delivers for us all.  We’ve even set up a survey to track your thoughts on the new service.  After all, it is for you.

Well, that’s all for now.  Thanks again for everything. 

Sincerely,

Trivi

The Chronicles of Young Dmitry Medlov: V4 Finally Released!!!

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It’s been a long time coming, and to all my faithful fans, I do apologize.  Life always gets in the way of my writing plans.  It makes me remember a saying, “if you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans.”  During the last quarter, I had planned to drop several books, including V4.  My expectations, however, did not include my husband nearly dying in sleep, kids with insane homework assignments and several family trips, outings and visits.  Not to mention, RiverHouse opened a new office dead smack in the middle of the financial district of Manhattan (NYC).  I have been buuusssyyy.

The good news is that Adam is doing much better.  You don’t realize how special they are until they are nearly taken from you , right beside you.  For that, I am so thankful to my dear sweet savior, Jesus Christ.  The office is working out great in New York and will offer even more opportunities for readers and authors alike who follow RiverHouse and the family visits were awesome.  I saw my cousin for the first time in ten years and it was amazing.  We are even moving to the Miami-Ft. Lauderdale area next summer. 

But with everything going on, my writing slowed to a pitiful crawl.  Now, I’m back.  And as normal after being pulled away from my work, I am on fire.

I have a lot in front of me.  Saving Anya and The World In Reverse are due out both on Christmas Day.  It will be out no later than December 31st.  Please be patient with me.  If I pull this off, this will be the biggest project that I’ve ever taken on.

Now on to Volume 4 and Book One of the Chronicles of Young Dmitry Medlov.

The Chronicles of Young Dmitry Medlov: Volume 4

Now a widower, Dmitry Medlov’s life has completely changed. Wealthy beyond his wildest dreams, his aspirations quickly move from more money to more power. Only the power he seeks is held by the commanding and elusive Czar of the underworld, Boss Smirnov.
When Dmitry successfully talks the underboss and the all-knowing eye of the underworld, Khalid, into arranging a meeting between he and Boss Smirnov, he has no idea what troubles he is about to face. There are secrets that will be exposed in Prague that will forever change his young life again, leading to a decision that will rock the underworld for good.

Meanwhile, back in London, the city is buzzing about the deaths of the entire board of directors of Dmitry’s newly acquired business, Hutton Industries, minus the company’s former front man, who was involved in a gruesome home invasion that left him blind, deaf, mute and paralyzed.
With no witnesses, leads or proof combined with the botched attempt on his own life during the horrid chain of events, Dmitry is looked over as a person of interest by Scotland Yard and is given carde blache to turn his new private company into his personal money laundering hub right under the public’s nose with the help of his Africa girlfriend, Oxford University senior and business genius, Elsa. And it’s just in time for his new secret alliance with the leaders of a powerful paramilitary sect led by Elsa’s father in Angola, Africa.
Dmitry’s new found power creates a checkmate for his ambitions to be boss but puts a target squarely on his back by not only organized crime heads around the world but also by his own brother, Ivan. Secret alliances are formed. Money is exchanged, and a definite war is looming. Only no one is willing to give up as much as Dmitry is to be king.
Read the last volume of the first book, The Chronicles of Young Dmitry Medlov and witness the heart stopping rise of a giant and everything that he’s willing to do to become the world’s most powerful and deadly boss.

The Chronicles of Young Dmitry Medlov: Book One

If you’ve been waiting to buy all the volumes of Book One of The Chronicles of Young Dmitry Medlov: Volumes 1-4, the time has now arrived.

By popular demand, Latrivia S. Nelson is proud to announce a compilation of the first four of the twelve volumes from the Medlov Crime Family Short Stories Series.

Dmitry Medlov wasn’t always a billionaire crime boss. His rise to the top was a painstaking process that took many years and many trials and tribulations. From breaking out of prison on a twenty-year bid in Russia to trafficking guns in the back alleys of London and finally toppling a dynasty run by a blood-thirsty Czar, this seven-foot tall, bad boy had to earn every penny.

Along the way, however, he also learned about a woman’s heart, the pain of losing a sick wife, the drain of taking care of a psychotic kid brother, the knowledge of finding out that he was a father and pride of building an empire all before his 25th birthday.

Read about American’s favorite mob boss in four short tales that will have you flipping through the pages and begging for more.

The Chronicles of Young Dmitry Medlov: Book One by national bestselling author Latrivia S. Nelson.

Now comes the good part.  The Chronicles of Young Dmitry Medlov: Book One will be available in print on December 23, 2011.  If you want to purchase, you can pre-order on the website.  It would be a great stocking stuffer, collector’s addition.  I do hope you consider itJ.

In the next week, we will also be releasing a new book trailer for Book One, which will cover all of the volumes so far.  Lots of fun on that one too. 
http://www.latrivianelson.info

A Friend Lost to Cancer – Xavier Dolino Will Be Missed

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He spoke three languages fluently: French, Italian and English.  Educated in Europe and the States, he had a way with people.  Everyone loved him, adored his smile and laughter, appreciated his knowledge.  On top of being brilliant, he was beautiful.  Hair as black as midnight, deep set brown eyes and a pensive, serious stare, analyzing the world and all in it.  Xavier Dolino was a wonderful man.  Before finding my soul mate, Adam, Xavier was my boyfriend.  But more than that he was my friend. 

And as far as an inspiration, he inspired thousands and the co-founder of Hour of Power and an international health guru.

His friends in Dublin, Ireland knew him for his serious workout sessions at his studio and his rock hard abs cut to perfection.  I knew him as something graceful and charismatic.  A man that I could talk to about just about anything and often did.  We would spend hours on the phone talking.  The cell phone bills were ungodly. 

I can’t believe that he is gone.  Just a year ago, we were talking about his last trip to Italy to live off the land and ride bikes through the countryside.  Two years ago he was at the Arnold Classic defying physics with his intense workout regiments.  Even though I had moved on with my life and he had moved on with his, we were still dear friends, because we had never crossed each other or done anything wrong to each other.  We simply were at different points in our lives. 

Then there was Baby Joe.  The best Boxer in all the world.  He was man’s best friend, especially Xavier’s.  I remember once he sent me a picture of Baby Joe in a Bruno lime green outfit.  I had had a horrible week and needed cheering up.  Xavier knew just the trick.  I opened my email and laughed for days. I still thank him for that. 

Both French and Italian,  he had a wonderful way of seeing the world.  We often talked of his time in Florida while studying abroad and how those had been some of his most exciting memories as a young man.  I used to try out my French on him, holding long conversations butchering his native tongue, but he was kind.  He would indulge me and only correct me afterwards, always starting off the conversation with “you are magnificent, but you messed up a few words, love.”  Then he would say it the right way and it always sounded better coming from his mouth.  We did the same in Italian.  Often, when I would get really excited about something, I would speak to him in Italian and French at the same time.  He would laugh, but he always understood me.  I gave a new meaning to bilingual. 

When my husband was ill a few years ago, he would send words of encouragement.  He would share personal things with me to give me hope.  I never once heard him speak a negative word…not in all the years I knew him. Not one negative word about anyone or anything, even when he got sick last year. 

His friends held him in the highest regard.  Gordon was one of his best friends.  How he loved Gordon.  But he always spoke of all his friends in the highest regard, like he was surrounded by royalty.  He had a way with making everyone feel special.  His team of guys was his second family.  He would always send me pictures of them – a group of happy fellows and women who were always striving for a more healthy world.  The last time I spoke with him, he was training for a 2011 event where he was working out like crazy.  He reminded me of Adam in that way.  I guess that I’ve always loved athletes, people willing to take their bodies to the next level through mind over muscle. 

I miss him as I’m sure that everyone does, especially his dear brother, Daniel, his parents and his friends back home in Ireland.  He would always come to the states for the Arnold Classic.  I’ll miss hearing about his trips and hearing about his dreams.  But I’m glad to have known him.  I wouldn’t give that time up for anything. 

He was the kind of guy that would make a beautiful leading role in one of my romance novels…the kind of guy that you fall head over heels in love with after a few pages.  I’m sure in the future, I’ll try to make a story around him, though I’m sure it will never capture all of his beautiful essence.  It will have to be my way of memorializing him. 

I’m sure that hundreds of thousands of people have stories like mine.  They have friends, family, loved ones who have been taken away by cancer.  And just like Xavier, they had a story that shouldn’t have ended so soon. 

As I write this with tears, I know in my heart that we must continue to fund cancer research.  We must find a cure.  We have lost too many already. 

I worked for AlSAC/St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital for a while in college.  As an intern there, I developed and implemented Stepping for A Cure, a program that reached out to HBCUs nationwide and encouraged Greek organizations to coordinate step shows that would benefit sickle cell research as well as other catastrophic diseases.  My boss, Chuck Donlin, was the kind of man who supported a good thing.  He pushed me to make it happen and the Memphis Police Department and local alumni chapters of all the Divine Nine were there to support me.  It was a marvelous event, but it was the purpose that really pushed me to see it through.  It was about saving lives…saving people through working together. 

Shortly after taking the job, I lost a friend from high school, Matt (my first kiss) who passed away and was buried on September 11th.  I never made it to his funeral, but I remember feeling so sad when I heard that he had passed.  A friend came by my mom’s house and told me.  I grew up with him from fourth grade until graduation.  On my first day at a new school, Matt became my first friend.  He gave me a kiss under the tires on the playground.  He never got the chance to graduate from college, marry, have children.  He too was taken from the world too early.  There were many others.  My own grandmother (paternally) fights the disease every day. 

Cancer does not discriminate.  It’s a tool of the devil to rob, kill and destroy.  But I know that Jesus came so that we might have life and have it more abundantly.  Through him there has to be a cure…an answer.

I pray for Xavier’s family and every family like his. I pray for my own family.  And I still appreciate that God allowed these people to have lived and to have touched as many lives as they did. 

I took this from another close friend’s blog.  He said, ”

It is his mentor and close friend Dragan Radovic, who today has invited everyone who knew Xavier (or would simply like to honour him) to perform 100 continuous lifts of any dumbbell. Wherever you are, whatever you are doing today – to take 5minutes from your schedule to do these 100 lifts. To take a minute’s silence to remember the man…then take 5minutes of physical action to honour what the man stood for.  It is absolutely what he would have wanted.”

I got to 50, Xavier.  You know me…

I’ll miss you, Xavier. 

Here are some links of him doing his thing:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E3G8jcatqnc&feature=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3JF6xuchrOA&feature=related

XoXo and all that jazz,

Latrivia S. Nelson

Awesome Interview with the Legendary Koko Brown for The Grunt

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This truly has been a crazy week.  We’re currently working on the foundation for our new imprint, Taboo, a project that will launch in the summer of 2012 for Interracial Romance Readers globally.  I’ve been writing up a storm on The Chronicles of Young Dmitry Medlov: Volume 4, The World in Reverse and Saving Anya.  Plus, I have completed seven book club meetings and it’s only Tuesday.  However, I’m doing what I love, and because of that I know that I’m blessed.

Koko Brown really made my week with the latest review of The Grunt.  Words cannot express how proud I was to read this. I woke Adam up from his nap and made him read it twice.  Even he had to smile, and those who know Adam know how hard it is to make him smile.

So, I want to share this review with you.  Here’s the link.  Please check it out.  Respond.  Tell her what you think and share it with others. 

Link: http://kokobrown.net/2011/09/whos-in-the-hot-seat-author-latrivia-nelson.html

Thanks so much to all the reviewers who have taken the time to write a review about The Grunt and thanks so much to all the readers who have read the book.  Thanks to Koko for making my week go a little smoother. 

Hope all is well.

XoXo and all that jazz,

Latrivia S. Nelson (one happy woman)

From Complaint to Cyberharassment!

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For all you soon-to-be authors out there who really want to know what being in the public eye (really just a glimpse of the public eye because I am not Hollywood) can be like, I’m sharing this with you.  I want you to understand that you have to take the glory and the “stank” with the job.

Plus…

I might as well put it out there.  Only because I’m not sure how crazy this person is. 

And…

Everyone likes gossip.  We all curl up to our computers when a juicy story hits the wire.  We laugh and say “oh my goodness” knowing the entire time we love it when there is “crap” in the game.

So here it goes…

RiverHouse has asked the person who I recently discussed as part of my “This Is Where I Draw the Line” blog entry to permanently stop emailing me.  I had to call my lawyer this late at night and have him type up an email to her, because I have received my fourth lengthy email from her in less than 48 hours.  She went from attacking the book to a long apology to now just pissed off! 

Evidently, as soon as she said she didn’t mean to offend me, I was supposed to forget that it ever happened.  But what I wonder is if she would have apologized at all if I had not stood up for myself.  And the entry was not just about her, but people like her in general.  She was just the straw that broke the camel’s back for me. 

I’m sure now, she’ll move on to blasting me whenever and wherever she gets a chance.  I’ll have reviews that start out, “I hate her” or “This author is unprofessional and petty” or “I want to put a hit on this woman” But like my mom says, “I have the blood of Jesus.” So, even if it gets to that, I’ve got someone who has my back.

In the email, she threatens to go to book retailers and ask them to take down my work, accuses me of milking my fans for sympathy and basically getting pissed, because I did not accept her apology.  Childish.  I know.  But in the vein of PR, it’s better that I say something now, before she starts a full-on assault campaign to smear my name like Philadelphia Cheese to a warm bagel. 

But you know how these things go.  Scorned people have a tendency to get really “crazy”.  Lord knows I have had my share of crazy people communicate with me.  Probably ten percent of the emails I get per day.  At over 100 emails a day, you do the math.  However, they tend to send one email, not four.

A smart person would take down their email address, but there are so many great readers and reviewers, until you have to take these things as part of the job.  As a courtesy to her, however, I did take down her email address so that the 10,000 readers and hits on this blog wouldn’t have personal access to her they way that she has to me.  Imagine how full her email box would be!  Plus, a dose of her own medicine would be fun but not cool on my part.

I think she’s pissed that I told her and people like her how I really felt about personal attacks.  I know that she’s pissed that I actually stood up for myself.  I think she thinks that just because she purchased a book, I must then be deaf and mute, unable to defend myself against her.  Some of the best authors I know are some of the feistiest.  I dare you to send some of these authors a crazy email and expect not to get a reply. Or better yet, many authors don’t reply at all one way or the other.    So it’s a catch 22.

Some of the authors I know go as far as getting on Amazon and going head up with people about their work.  This woman came to my blog, posted and then got upset when she got a response.  Go figure. 

Anyway, tonight, we’re holding a burial ceremony for this subject and this reader. 

Keep in mind, this is not for all reviewers who just don’t like my work.  I’ve learned a lot from the reviewers who have taken time to share their thoughts and make suggestions.  Even the ones who have been really crude have had great points, and I used them to make myself a better author.  I still encourage them to write to me, to share their thoughts and not worry about being attacked.  It’s just that if you have something “horrid” to say, expect a horrid response. 

This burial ceremony is for this particular reader.  I don’t want to deal with her anymore, and I’m growing bored and tired with the entire thing.   I say her, but I don’t even know this person’s name.  She could very well be a 600 pound man who lives on the computer, cross dresses and likes to be called Mary.

I don’t have a priest here at the house, so I’ll just say about this reviewer who is now dead to us all that God Bless Her and Give Her a Life of Abundance and Grace, and please Lord don’t let our paths cross again.
XoXo and all that jazz,

Latrivia